Don't Take IT Personal

"Don't take IT personal" means to not interpret someone's actions or words as a direct attack on you, and to understand that their behavior might be influenced by factors unrelated to you, so you shouldn't feel personally offended or hurt by IT; essentially, to not take things too personally. It’s natural to want to be respected. After all, humans are social animals and we want to be valued by our fellow tribe members. So, it's only natural that criticism can sting and cause emotional pain.While some comments or actions are actually offensive, if you find that your feelings are hurt very often or you tend to assume that someone meant to cause you emotional harm, it's possible that you're prone to taking things too personally.

You know, life can be tough sometimes, and it's easy to get caught up in the negativity. But here's the thing: don't let other people's actions or words define who you are. Remember, you're unique and special in your own way. So, when someone says or does something that hurts you, don't take IT personally. It's not about you; it's about them. Remember, we're all human and we all have our own struggles. Let's be kind to each other and support one another. Don't take IT personally, everyone! Remember IT Had 2 Happen but happening for you.

KEY POINTS

Key points about "don't take IT personally":

• It's about perspective: When someone says this, they are suggesting you should consider the situation from a broader perspective and not assume negative intentions solely directed at you.

• Not always about being right: Sometimes, even if someone is criticizing you, "don't take it personally" means that they might be trying to give constructive feedback and not aiming to belittle you.

• Can be used to diffuse tension: This phrase can be used to calm a situation where someone is feeling overly sensitive or attacked, encouraging them to step back and re-evaluate the situation.

• What Causes People to Take Things Personally? It’s normal to care about what others think about us but not to the point where IT hinders us. The causes of why we take things personally stem from a variety of factors: Negative self talk. We might constantly tell ourselves we’re not good enough or it’s always our fault. So, in the face of ugly comments, we’ll easily believe negative things said about us. Childhood trauma. Lack of emotional support in childhood and being blamed as a child by parents can contribute to our feelings that we deserve to be mocked or humiliated. Poor self-esteem. People with low self-esteem sometimes worry too much about what others think. They may very well take things too personally. Anxiety disorders. Those who have social anxiety are extremely afraid of being judged and embarrassed. Perfectionism. Perfectionists have a hard time when others talk about their flaws as they have unrealistic standards about what they should be. Stress or fatigue. When you're not in the best mood, you may be more prone to misinterpreting someone's comments.

Let's Pray:

Father, help me to see with spiritual eyes when life feels unfair or painful. Teach me to resist the urge to take offense and instead recognize Your hand, even in the hard places. Remind me that rejection is redirection, and what hurt me may be the very thing that heals me. I surrender my need to understand it all, and I trust Your purpose in every twist and turn of my story. Strengthen my heart, renew my mind, and anchor my soul in Your truth. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Scriptures:

    1.    Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NLT)

“For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.”

    2.    John 13:7 (NIV)

“Jesus replied, ‘You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand.’”

Affirmations:

    •    I release offense and rise in purpose.

    •    What tried to break me is building me.

    •    God’s plan is greater than my pain.

Question:

What if the thing you took personally was actually a divine push into your purpose?

IT Had 2 Happen: My Journey. My Pain birthed My Purpose. IT Had 2 Happen to you for you to share with others. I would like to hear from you. If you don't mind emailing or repsonding to the question, I'll kindly appreciate IT. Let me know how I'm doing.

I'm rooting for you.

- Dr. Erica Wilson -